ah. this is something i've been thinking about for a long time. as someone who, {at times}, can be irrational and a little obsessive, facebook can have its moments of torment for me. let's think about it: it is a fantastic thing for reconnecting, for making new friends, for planning events. i can't tell you how many emails, conversations, drinks i've shared with people from grade school, high school, college as a result of a facebook friendship. i've planned bachelorette parties, showers, birthday parties and tons of random nights out through facebook. i even owe so much of getting to know my boyfriend months ago to late night facebook chats. but this we all know.
facebook also provides an arena for a total time-suck. i can't count the number of hot coffees that have cooled to almost icy on my desk as i sit clicking through faceless photo albums of my cousin's girlfriend's friend's sister's husband. it's also the perfect place to log on when you're feeling a little down and start comparing your life to that of the beautiful girl from high school who is now married to a gorgeous man, with the perfect job you want and the kind of life you didn't even know you wanted. it's the perfect place to have passive agressive fights with friends through status updates and profile photos. And of course the worst is that it provides a sort of diary into the past life of significant others. photos of ex-girlfriends, ex-boyfriends, husbands, wives. there are old mushy status updates that feel like a hot knife searing my skin. logic says that everyone had a life before you stepped in, but logic doesn't exist in the impossibly cruel facebook world.
yesterday i had a conversation with my brother's girlfriend bee. i'd been wanting to write a facebook post for awhile so i asked her thoughts on it and she summed it up pretty succinctly, "facebook makes everything worse." and she's one of the lucky ones - my brother [her boyfriend] has never, will never have a facebook. he just doesn't care.
i've heard friends say that people without facebook are creepy. i just think they're awesome. so, you say, why don't i simply deactivate my facebook account? well, that would just be too logical.
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